My wise friend, Zen, recently posted a blog about S-E-X and touched on the fact that communication is an essential part. I couldn't agree with her more. I was thinking about her blog and thinking about my relationship with my husband and the fact that I can talk to him about, literally, anything. I think this is the way it should be. If you marry someone, you should be comfortable talking about even the most uncomfortable topics. Your spouse is your partner through thick and thin...through the best and worst of times.
My husband has seen me dressed to the nines and he has seen me perched on Death's door with my head in the toilet. He has seen me when I am brimming with grace and when I am spewing anger. He knows that I would rather wear my jeans than my slacks. He has seen me exhibit the patience of a saint and he has seen me irrational. He knows I weep openly at sad movies and long-distance telephone commercials. He knows I have a soft spot in my heart for animals. He has seen me dancing in the kitchen and loves me even though I continually attempt to add the Running Man to my list of moves. He knows how self-conscious I am. My husband also knows that he has the most amazing power to hurt me; and we both know he never will. I am my most vulnerable with my husband and our relationship is stronger as a result.
My husband has seen me in labor and laboring at yard work. He has seen me in the light of accomplishment and in the darkness of defeat. He has seen me at my wittiest and at my saddest. He knows my fears and my vices. He knows what I treasure. My husband knows how to tease me in a way that makes me laugh rather than breaks me down. Because we know each other so well, my husband can say one word at the right moment and send me into peals of laughter.
And, yes. I can talk to my husband about anything. It hasn't always been easy but we both work very hard at communicating with each other. My husband can ask me anything and I will respond honestly. And, I know the same is true for me asking him about things. Marriage is hard work but it is well worth it. It is so FUN! I love being married and am so thankful that I get to spend my life with my husband.
Communicate! If you are taking your clothes off for someone you have permission to ask and to tell. You want to get to the point were your spouse can say, "Hemoglobin Globe-trotters" and you double over with laughter!
Be sure to check out Zen's post on S-E-X at http://onezenmom.blogspot.com!